It took a divorce and the ending of a 5 year relationship to finally find and accept the real ME.  It was only a month after marriage that I realized I had made a mistake but, I did like many women do and stuck it out 'like a good little girl' for 5½ more years.  I knew my marriage was over when we became more like roommates than husband and wife. 

About nine months later I was in another relationship that lasted 5 years, and when it ended it felt like divorce #2.  I knew this relationship was pretty much over when I realized how vastly different our spiritual beliefs were.  In both of these relationships I felt, and was even told, that I needed to be someone that I’m not.  I found myself walking on egg shells just to please them and I put my true self in a box. 

Even though these two men were very different from each other I remained the same person in each relationship.  I thought it was easier to keep my opinion and needs to myself than to express them and chance rocking the boat.  I let them do as they please even when their desires put me last on their priority list.  I also realized that I was more in love with ‘being in love’ than I was with them. 

After the 5 year relationship ended I decided it was time to work on me, to find who I really am and build a strong personal foundation.  I looked back on those two relationships and picked at least one thing that I learned about myself.  That is when I realized I had to take responsibility for my choices, and it was because of my choices that I was the person I became in those relationships.  I turned inward and found a beautiful, vibrant, spiritual woman that I had forgotten about.

I now feel comfortable expressing my needs, wishes, and being my authentic self.  I have come to realize that I am perfect just as I am and that those who are in my life accept me without judgment; those who do not walk away and that’s okay.  I now enjoy being with people who share similar interests and are like-minded.  I am also happily involved, for two years now, with a man who accepts me for who I really am and encourages me to be me.  I even found the courage to be my own boss by doing what I love most, helping other women to flourish after divorce.

Through my own experiences, teaching myself to be courageous and confident through self-help, and with some assistance from a therapist, I am able to help other divorced women to find their true self and live authentically.  I incorporate the training I received from Coach University, the strength based coaching techniques from a course in Appreciative Coaching, and my many years of experience in community based programming in working with my clients today. 

When I’m not with clients I love being outdoors and connecting with nature, it fills my soul and keeps me connected to my source. Trekking in the woods, camping, and walking or meditating on the beach are some of my favorite activities.  I love to read about spirituality, law of attraction, and personal growth.  Some of my favorite authors include Ester & Jerry Hicks, Dr. Wayne Dyer, Eckhart Tolle, and Jodi Piccoult.

We are all unique individuals and I am excited to say that I now let my uniqueness shine through.  Are you ready to start living your authentic self today?  Call me and see how refreshing and liberating it is!

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